For the Parents (or the Ones Becoming One)
You’re not raising a reflection. You’re raising a soul.
Your child didn’t come here to fulfill your story.
They came with their own.
They are not an extension of your image.
Not your second chance.
Not your redemption.
Not a mirror of your pain.
They are their own being.
Wise. Whole. Remembering.
And your job?
To protect that remembering — until they’re strong enough to protect it themselves.
Let Them Be Who They Are
If they want to be quiet, let them.
If they like being alone, honor it.
If they ask deep questions, don’t brush them off.
If they’re different from you — let that be okay.
Not every child is meant to be outgoing.
Not every child needs to be “more social.”
Not every child will thrive in the system you were forced to survive.
You’re not here to “fix” them.
You’re here to see them.
Your Wounds Are Not Their Lessons
This is a hard one, but it’s important:
Just because you went through something doesn’t mean they have to.
Yes, it made you stronger.
Yes, you survived.
But ask yourself:
How did it feel back then — when no one protected me?
Your job is not to repeat it.
Your job is to break it.
Let their story be lighter.
That’s not weakness.
That’s evolution.
Check the Projection
Before correcting them, ask:
Is this about them?
Or is this about me?
When they say no — do you feel rejected?
When they’re different — do you feel fear?
When they succeed — do you feel left behind?
These aren’t failures.
They’re mirrors.
Children don’t activate your ego to hurt you.
They do it to wake you.
On Screen Time
Yes, it’s easy.
But that doesn’t mean it’s harmless.
An overstimulated child isn’t a calm child — just a distracted one.
A screen isn’t a substitute for presence.
Let them be bored.
Let them feel.
Let them build the inner world they came here to remember.
And if you’re always on your phone?
They’ll remember that too.
School Is Not the Soul Guide
Teachers are helpers.
But they can’t anchor the truth of your child.
You are the one they chose.
Not to be perfect — but to show up.
To listen. To ask questions.
To model growth.
Teach them what no system will:
How to feel safely
How to trust their no
How to process disappointment
How to sit with silence
How to stand in their truth
Personal Note
No matter what happens —
the child doesn’t stop loving you.
They stop loving themselves.
They don’t say, “You’re hurting me.”
They say, “Something must be wrong with me.”
Your words become their inner voice.
Your presence becomes their safety.
Your wounds, if unhealed, become their patterns.
You don’t need to be perfect.
Just aware.
Because your actions echo across their entire future.
The Reminder
You’re not raising a replica.
You’re raising a remembering.
You don’t need to know it all.
You just need to stay open.
Let their story unfold —
Not the one you wrote for them.
The one they came here to live.