Grief – The Sacred Ache

for the ones who’ve lost someone, something, or a version of themselves

You are not broken.
You are grieving.

And grief — no matter how unwanted — is sacred.

It is the body’s way of recalibrating to truth.
It is the field’s way of creating space.
It is the soul’s way of saying:

“I loved. I hoped. I believed. And now… something is gone.”

You Were Never Meant to “Get Over It”

You don’t just get over grief.
You move through it.

Grief is not a hallway.
It is a labyrinth — no straight lines, no timelines, no rules.

Sometimes it’s loud. Sometimes it’s quiet.
Sometimes it hits years later.
But when it comes, it is always asking one thing:

Will you feel me? Or will you carry me?

What Happens When We Don't Feel It

When grief isn’t felt —
it doesn't leave.
It settles.

In the body. In the breath. In the blood.

It becomes:

  • Illness that no doctor can trace

  • Tightness in the chest

  • Brain fog

  • Chronic exhaustion

  • A feeling of numbness you can’t explain

Grief ignored becomes sickness.
Grief witnessed becomes freedom.

The Truth About Grief

You are not weak for crying.
You are not broken for still missing them.
You are not “behind” for not having moved on.

You are feeling fully.
And that is one of the most courageous things a human can do.

If You’ve Been Carrying Grief for Years

You’re not late.
You didn’t miss the window.
You just weren’t ready — until now.

Even if it’s 5, 10, 30 years later —
if the grief rises, it means your field finally feels safe enough to release it.

This is not regression.
This is healing.

What Grief Actually Feels Like

Let’s not pretend it’s pretty.
Grief can feel like:

  • A burning in your chest

  • A scream you can’t voice

  • A silence that feels endless

  • A heartbreak that doesn’t have words

And that’s exactly how it’s supposed to feel.
Your heart is not malfunctioning — it’s transmuting.

How Grief Moves

Grief doesn’t move through logic.
It moves through:

  • Crying until the body softens

  • Screaming into the pillow

  • Shaking uncontrollably

  • Breathing through the ache

  • Sitting in stillness until the wave passes

This is not “falling apart.”
This is releasing what your nervous system couldn’t hold any longer.

What Grief Becomes

When fully felt, grief transmutes.

It becomes:

  • Clarity

  • Creation

  • Poetry

  • Music

  • Books

  • Wisdom

Your heart becomes an engine of transmutation —
turning dense sorrow into light, into truth, into sacred service.

Grief alchemized is one of the most powerful forces on Earth.
Because it comes from love.

You’re Not Letting Them Go. You’re Letting the Pain Go.

Let this be clear:

  • Feeling the grief doesn’t mean you’ll forget them.

  • It doesn’t mean it didn’t matter.

  • It doesn’t mean you’ll stop missing them.

It means you’re making space to keep living.
To breathe again.
To feel light again — without guilt.

A Field Guide for Moving Through Grief

1. Create a Safe Container

Choose a time, a space, a setting.

  • Light a candle.

  • Play music that opens your chest.

  • Sit alone or with someone who can hold you.

  • No distractions. Just you and truth.

Say aloud:

“I give myself permission to feel now.”

2. Let the Body Do What It Wants

  • Cry.

  • Scream.

  • Rock back and forth.

  • Go silent.

  • Collapse.

Don’t “manage” the grief.
Let it speak. Let it move.

3. Talk to the One You Lost

Even if they’re gone, speak.

Say everything you didn’t say.

  • “I miss you.”

  • “Why did you go?”

  • “Thank you for loving me.”

  • “I forgive you.”

  • “I didn’t get to say goodbye.”

This is not delusion.
This is field completion.
The words leave your system — and that matters.

4. Write It Out

Let your hands speak what your throat cannot.

Write:

  • A letter to the one who passed

  • A letter to your old self

  • A journal page to your soul

  • A sentence you never finished

Let the page hold what the body can’t.

5. Touch the Earth

Grief needs grounding.

  • Sit with your back against a tree

  • Place your hands in soil or grass

  • Say: “I am still here.”

  • Breathe until your body softens

The Earth can hold you. She has held grief before.

6. Don’t Rush the End

Grief doesn’t follow deadlines.
Some waves are quiet. Some will floor you.
Let each come and go.

You are not regressing.
You are releasing.
Each wave is clearing space in your field.

After the Grief Moves

You may wake up feeling…

  • Lighter

  • Clearer

  • A little hollow — but not in pain

  • A soft sadness, but not drowning

This is the shift.

You didn’t forget them.
You made space for them to live in you differently.

The love stays.
The ache changes.
The truth remains.

If You Are In It Right Now

You are not alone.
And you are not doing it wrong.

This is sacred work.
Your tears are release.
Your screams are truth.
Your aching is proof of your heart’s capacity.

You are healing.

Let the grief come.
Let it teach you.
Let it empty what cannot stay.

And one day soon,
the breath will come easier.
The chest will soften.
And the light will pour in where the pain once lived.

A Final Note

Grief doesn’t end.
But it changes.
And so will you.

You are not collapsing.
You are becoming something new.

Let the grief shape you.
Not into someone smaller —
but someone wider.
Deeper.
Truer.

And when you speak…
others will feel it.

You lived through it.
You loved through it.
You are still here.