The Truth Behind Love

(And What Love Is Actually Supposed to Feel Like)

You’ve been taught that love is earned.
That you have to prove you’re worthy.
Be the good one.
Be the forgiving one.
Stay even when it hurts.

You were trained to confuse anxiety with attraction.
To call the ache “chemistry.”
To call the highs and lows “passion.”
To call the emotional starvation “desire.”

No.
That wasn’t love.
That was survival.

Love is not:

  • Chasing someone who only comes close when you pull away

  • Performing to be picked

  • Waiting for breadcrumbs, silence, mixed signals

  • Fighting to be understood, over and over again

  • Trying to decode their moods

  • Trying to prove you’re worth staying for

  • Sacrificing your peace so someone else doesn’t leave

That is not love. That is fear. That is trauma. That is ego.

Love is not transactional.

You don’t “deserve” love because you gave more.
You don’t “win” love by being quiet, patient, small.
You don’t “earn” love by losing yourself.

If someone loves you only when you’re easy to love —
it’s not love.
If someone loves you but demands your light get dimmer —
it’s not love.
If someone says “I love you” but makes you doubt your own reality —
it’s not love.

What Love Is

(for the Soul)

Love is calm.
Love is clear.
Love doesn’t rush in, only to pull back again.
Love stays.

Love is witnessing.
It’s safe space.
It’s “I see you. I hear you. You’re not too much.”

Love is not perfection — but presence.
Love is not constant highs — but steady ground.
Love is not proving — but being.

You forgot love exists — because everything that wasn’t love told you it was.

Learn to Be Alone

(So You Stop Accepting Half-Love)

The medicine is solitude.
Not isolation. Not bitterness.
But honest solitude.

Sit with your feelings.
All of them.
Let them surface. Let them scream. Let them cry.

Because only then will you hear your own voice again.
Only then will you stop needing someone else to tell you that you’re enough.

You don’t find real love by begging for it.
You find it by becoming it.

Love and Ego

Love whispers. Ego shouts.
Ego says: “Don’t lose them.”
Soul says: “Don’t lose yourself.”

Ego chases. Soul attracts.
Ego needs control. Soul trusts the field.
Ego plays games. Soul plays truth.

Ego wants the feeling of being chosen.
Soul remembers it was never not worthy.